This is totally different from
what I normally share with you guys, I want us to speak in real terms and not hide in the name of irony. (You will soon get a complied version of such very
soon)*Let’s call a spade a spade and not
an agricultural tool
Quite a number of us ladies are
often carried away with a philosophy or two minutes resolutions, no offence but
to not speak the truth of what is it would be self-character assassination.
Some out of a hand full know and understand the perception of having faith and
working it out also know that see things that are not as though they were
actually works. We really thank God for the faith and having the ability to
work it out. We as people desire a lot of things and most times we leave it at
that, they became desires we once had.
Ladies, women, women of God, and
daughters of Sarah however way you prefer to be addressed, I need us to be
honest to ourselves so that we can amount to the price we really are worth and
perceive ourselves as. This is not only for born again, spirit filled, tongue
speaking, and twenty four hours praying women but for every female being out
there.
We grew up from different
backgrounds; some from nuclear, single, extended, blended, orphan families
while others have no education background, no friends, and no nothing that
really gives hope for tomorrow despite all these we find ourselves wishing to
be married at some point in life hence we resort to either working hard to get
to get married properly or we throw ourselves to all manner of men we meet. We
go out of our way to make sure we reach the junction of marriage but I want us
to cross check on few issues here; whether we hustle to have money in order to
beautify and polish our ‘strong points’ or we make ourselves spotless and
innocent looking young women none of these can buy the right protocol that approves
your day dreamed marriage.
What is the point of buying a 250
pair of shoes, 150 worth of dress, perfume that cost 500, put on 150 hair weave
and whatever price the hand bag will cost you then ‘LOOK LIKE’ a million dollar
person when in actual fact you worth 10 dollars because it’s only a matter of
time that they wear out and are compelled to return to your true nature of
being a hustler. I say invest where it’s wise so that you will be able to
retain that million dollar look. No man in their right mind senses will want to
take a woman that is going to be a burden and will always ask for things
without making efforts to plan so that at some point she also gives instead of
receiving.
I do not know about you ladies
but I am hungry for success; I want to know and explore what God has given me
for the purposes of being somebody in life. I want to be able to day dream
about my wedding knowing I have the means to pay for whatever coasts attached
to it, I want to be able to wish for a blissful marriage knowing I have
thoroughly prepared for it and will make it work. I want know I have considered
all issues of marriage and did not deceive myself with the thought of marriage
is a smooth sail in the snow based on the notion that I am a Christian
therefore nothing bad can transpire, we thank God for the faith He has given us
but reality is that even Christian marriages go through trials and
tribulations. Whatever the case be I know I do not want to be one of those
ladies that are so eager to be married so that they throw away their surnames
because somehow it embarrasses them, hence in quest for a man in fact a rich
man to be married to. Let’s say you get that wish granted the question is how
well are you going to manage those riches bearing in mind that you the one that
never learnt how to spend what you had; now what more of the money you did not
sweat hard for.
He is going to need to reference
a few things before he settles his thought on you, therefore you ought to have
a good background that will support his plans in the future. Build your own
resume of actual deeds not faith talk based, allow that faith to manifest and
give you the proper results, and remember without works is as good as dead.
(Focus scripture)
Ruth 2:11 NLT
"Yes, I know," Boaz replied.
"But I also know about everything you have done for your mother-in-law
since the death of your husband. I have heard how you left your father and
mother and your own land to live here among complete strangers
Ruth 2:11 NIV
Boaz replied, "I've been told all about
what you have done for your mother-in-law since the death of your husband--how
you left your father and mother and your homeland and came to live with a
people you did not know before.
Boaz who later married Naomi
referenced all these acts that Naomi did, he did not ask her but he told her I
have been told about how you have gone out of your way to be the woman you are
right now and this alone makes a man wonder to what extent will she further her
skill and character, after I make her my wife. Naomi did not speak or explain
her herself too much, her actions advocated on her behalf and when she made
these choices she was not aware that at some point in the future they will work
at her advantage. If we could build our character and allow God to mould us or
imitate your mentor on how they behaved I believe we will all gain knowledge.
There are two aspects to this
issue: First, that you as a woman should make goals to explore every talent you
have in order to make a living for yourself, be business minded; look for areas
you can invest your energy, skill and capabilities, be someone in life, come
out of your cocoon and step out to the real world, it’s better to fail having
to have made an effort than not a single
attempt this is what brings major
regret in people at a later stage of life. If you think you can knit, go buy
wool and start knitting a jersey for your sibling, niece or nephew, if you can
bake then be a good friend with the kitchen. Here I am thinking I may have the
potential of being a writer and an author of so many books in the future, I’m
giving it a try despite the wrong spelling and bad grammar I have but practice
makes perfect right. I am curving a way to make a better life for myself and
few of you that have seen and read my ‘write ups’ are a witness to this.
The second issue is character, we
usually hear people say character keeps and from Naomi’s story you can attest
to this saying. Purpose to be a woman
that will bring a difference in people lives, learn to go out of your way to
make decisions that will not only benefit you but multitudes, make certain
sacrifices and prioritize on valuable relationships not only man and wife relationship
but any form of relationship you have with a friend, father, mother and neighbor
in fact this is Naomi’s story she sacrificed for these relationships. Naomi
thought she was being kind to her mother in law but not knowing it was her
passport to her second marriage and a privilege to being the great grandmother of
our Lord Jesus Christ.
My main point is he will not come
looking for what inches of shoes you wearing or label you putting on because
all of that could be but for a moment. He is looking for a wife, he is
searching and listening but he cannot hear about the things you have done for
yourself and others. He is waiting to hear about :
- How you survived in a foreign land and overcame the challenge
- How you failed one thing many times but did not give up till you passed
- How you visited the sick in the hospital and spent your free days in orphanage centres
- How you missed a close friend party because you wanted to help someone you just met
- How you prepared a meal for your siblings out of an empty fridge that had only bottle of cold water
- How you opted not to buy another not needed pair of shoes for yourself but use the money to buy your cousin, uncle or father a pair of shoes and jeans
- How you chose to skip girls outing because you had to spend extra hours in the library just to prepare for exams coming in a month time.
Is it not funny how we neglect
the very things that will earn us a good living we all day dream of?
He is looking for the attributes
that will assure him that you are truly a woman waiting to be made a wife, your
value does not depreciate but appreciates daily, he is looking for a woman that
will not walk away when marriage hits an iceberg, he is looking for a woman
that will manage and spend the riches you both own, he is looking for a wife in
you but it seems like he is only getting the girl in you irrespective of name
title you have given yourself.
If you have him right now, then
you will know that some processes of getting to each other were not necessary
simply because he found what he was looking for. If you looking or have spotted
him and you wondering why he has not said anything to you, it could be he is
waiting to hear about your deeds but are busy sitting down day dreaming about
him/marriage. Get on your feet
Please get me right, I am not
saying go out there to be miss independent and step on the brothers heads
because humility and respect are also vital, I am simply saying have time to
define who you are and do not wait for marriage to give you an identity.
Where did the inspiration to
write all this come from?
I looked at myself in the mirror
on a Sunday morning as I dressed up for church and the thought of will I be
able to maintain this beauty if yes how and motives being what exactly, I realized
that after I take off these clothes I will go back to being a student that depends
on monthly stipend or by God’s grace i find a job immediately
after I graduate and I keep depending on this monthly salary. Am I prepared for
what will happen if I do not get a job right after university or I get
retrenched at my work place, will I be able to keep this fabulous look or I will
be forced to go back to value I'm worth? This marriage I'm so eager to engage into,
has any of my actions really advocated for me or the poor man was attracted to counterfeit.
All these questions ran through mind moreover the scripture that later provoked
the writing and sharing of this message was taken from the two services I attended
in church that Sunday morning.
Let the husband man be the first
partaker (2 Timothy 2:6) and to whom much is given, much is expected (Luke
12:48). I am not in any way better than you ladies but I know as I write
this I ought to live by example.
This is the ‘fabulous’ look that
triggered what I shared with you above.
By Kesego Ramoleko
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it to some you think needs to hear such words, talk about.
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